Anything that comes from a place of love will be reward in itself. Many people struggle with feeling inadequate, and I’m finding more and more that adjusting your personal perspective goes a long way towards adjusting the situation. If you do something because you love it (or the person you are doing it for) you will feel fulfilled simply by the act itself. Things start to break down when you do tasks with the expectation of getting a specific response from others. If you feel weighed down by the tasks in your life, or feel rejected in any way because you are not acknowledged or compensated in the way you would like for completing a task, I invite you to rethink why you did the task in the first place. In a “job/work” situation you are paid per prior agreement for tasks done. In life, no one is standing around with a stopwatch and paycheck. Our lives are precious and the time here is limited, so why spend so much of it worrying about how others perceive you?
Also, recently I had the good fortune to hear Mark Shepard, a speaker on Permaculture Design. He shared a personal story about what prompted him to focus his life on what he wanted the world to be, instead of focusing on rejecting what he didn’t want. It’s so easy to be pulled into the negativity and sorrow of what’s wrong in the world. I believe that it is very important to understand and acknowledge what is happening, but I agree that by focusing on what you don’t want you can be quickly pulled into the undertow of depression and anger. As Mahatma Gandhi so eloquently phrased it, “You must be the change you want to see in the world”.
“As long as anyone believes that his ideal and purpose is outside him, that it is above the clouds, in the past or in the future, he will go outside himself and seek fulfillment where it cannot be found. He will look for solutions and answers at every point except where they can be found--in himself.”
Ever thought about joining the Peace Corps? I recently discovered there’s no age limit, so even if it doesn’t fit into your life right now, there’s always a chance for the future.
If you’re not in a place in your life right now for such a huge change, volunteering in your own town can still make a world of difference. United Way is a great resource for finding opportunities in your area.